Episode 11

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Published on:

14th Nov 2022

Books, babies, and Berners w/ author Billi J. Miller

This week we're talking to Billi J. Miller about her upcoming book "Farm Kids: Stories From Our Lives". Billi farms with her husband and two daughters in eastern Alberta, as well as being a photographer, speaker, and author.

For her most recent book Billi spoke to farm kids ages 5-100 about their experiences growing up on the farm. She has also published two books about farm women, and a children's book about her family's Bernese Mountain dog Bubbles.

More information about Billi can be found at her website.

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Transcript
Arlene:

Welcome to another episode of Barnyard Language.

Arlene:

Thank you very much for joining us here on the podcast again today.

Arlene:

So Katie, last time we talked, I think Harvest was just about done or maybe done.

Arlene:

Done.

Arlene:

What is going on the farm now?

Arlene:

This is when you just take a vacation, right?

Arlene:

For several months.

Arlene:

Yeah.

Caite:

I have a text message here that the last of the corn is at

Caite:

19.2%, which I assume means that they're gonna finish combining asap.

Caite:

The vet is here right now, working steers and the bull through the chute which

Caite:

is why I'm in here recording podcasts.

Caite:

Us go scheduling situation way to schedule.

Caite:

Arlene, thank you.

Caite:

That's coming again next Tuesday.

Caite:

If you could book us then too.

Caite:

Yeah,

Arlene:

we'll schedule an interview for that day, that'd be great.

Arlene:

I just don't want it mention for people who are not watching the video

Arlene:

on Patreon, when Caite's voice cuts in and out is because she's looking

Arlene:

out the window because she needs to visually see what's happening on the.

Arlene:

When she talks about it,

Caite:

which I love.

Caite:

I'm gonna move my mic to the other side of my desk currently.

Caite:

So

Arlene:

you could just look at the window.

Arlene:

When I ask you what's going

Caite:

on the farm, Yes.

Caite:

It is ridiculous that I do have to look out the window.

Caite:

I've also noticed there is a window in our stairwell and every morning when I

Caite:

get up, I look out the window and every night when I go to bed, I look out the.

Caite:

Just to make sure that there is nothing untoward happening.

Caite:

I just on

Arlene:

that particular angle

Caite:

of the farm.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

Yes.

Caite:

It is a compulsion.

Caite:

I've tried not doing it, it doesn't, like I will have to go

Caite:

back to the landing and look.

Caite:

But from there I can see the barn and the sheep shed.

Caite:

So basically if I can't see it from there, it probably doesn't matter.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

That's all the important stuff.

Caite:

Other than that, I started Christmas shopping this week.

Caite:

Ugh.

Caite:

I did not buy my daughter the $40 purse.

Caite:

That looks like a taxidermy unicorn.

Caite:

Sorry baby.

Caite:

It's not gonna happen.

Caite:

Anyway, Arlene, take thing on your farm.

Caite:

I need you to

Arlene:

send me a picture of this thing, because that is, that's so scary.

Arlene:

Interesting description.

Caite:

I'll post a photo to the social medias, but the girl child

Caite:

asked for a purse that has eyeball.

Caite:

Move and link and it looks like it is legitimately made

Caite:

of a tax that are made animal.

Caite:

If you want one, they have em at Target.

Caite:

I think they have two different sizes, but they were like 40 some dollars.

Caite:

But

Arlene:

it's not coming into your house.

Caite:

No.

Caite:

Totally a horror movie waiting to happen.

Arlene:

I have definitely not started Christmas shopping, but one of the

Arlene:

issues in our house is that we have three birthdays between now and Christmas.

Arlene:

Three of my four children.

Arlene:

There's a few things that have to happen, between now and Christmas.

Arlene:

That mean that I have a hard time focusing on anything until a couple

Arlene:

weeks before, but we'll, it'll happen.

Arlene:

We'll get there.

Arlene:

Farm Life this week was, is the Royal winter fair in Toronto?

Arlene:

The teen, the oldest is there showing.

Arlene:

Jersey Heifer, and this will be their goodbye as well because I

Arlene:

think I mentioned earlier in the season that she borrowed a four

Arlene:

H calf this year from another.

Arlene:

And so she'll be showing her heifer and then it's gonna go back

Arlene:

home and not back here with her.

Arlene:

So I expect there might be some tears over that situation.

Arlene:

So they'll be saying goodbye.

Arlene:

And also my husband and several of our employees who are both for each

Arlene:

members and co-leaders with my husband of the dairy club, are all there.

Arlene:

I'm here on the farm and I actually recruited my own mom to

Arlene:

come and help milk cows with me because there was nobody left.

Arlene:

So it's been an interesting couple of days.

Arlene:

We've done pretty well and I'm not used to being in charge, so

Arlene:

that's a, an adjustment for me.

Arlene:

But we're making it happen.

Arlene:

I've got lots of checklists to make sure that I don't forget anything, and

Arlene:

I think that, I should knock on wood right now because we've got one milking.

Arlene:

And then my husband will be back for morning milking.

Arlene:

So I guess we'll find out whether we did everything right or not.

Arlene:

But we've had two calves born and they're both doing fine.

Arlene:

Moms are doing fine so far.

Arlene:

So yeah, so far so good.

Caite:

How tempted have you been to text Hugh and make something

Caite:

up just to fuck with him?

Arlene:

Not

Caite:

at all.

Caite:

Maybe I'm not.

Caite:

Now we know which of us is a terrible person and which of us is not.

Caite:

Okay, thanks Arlene.

Arlene:

I guess my thought is he's looking after a whole bunch of teenagers

Arlene:

as a four H chaperone right now.

Arlene:

So maybe I don't wanna stress him out with stuff that's not happening here,

Arlene:

while he's also got a lot going on there.

Arlene:

And he's trucking, all trucking, everybody's heifers back home

Arlene:

too with our truck and trailer.

Arlene:

So we'll just don't want him to.

Arlene:

Even if something really bad went wrong that, but it hasn't, we'll we

Arlene:

can just hold off until he gets closer.

Arlene:

That's totally valid.

Arlene:

And I think that's the main update.

Arlene:

Yeah.

Arlene:

When you got out on all the fields, we did get a call from the road commissioner

Arlene:

as usual to let us know that there was mud on the road, which we knew, and

Arlene:

that we should go and scrape it off.

Arlene:

So yeah, we did our best, Using large equipment and going out into fields,

Arlene:

sometimes the little mud gets on the road.

Arlene:

So I suspect it's the same person who always complains when we spread manure

Arlene:

that, that called the township again.

Arlene:

But yeah, it wasn't the police.

Arlene:

So that's progress.

Caite:

I suppose that we should feel very blessed on this person's behalf, that they

Caite:

have nothing bigger to concern themselves.

Caite:

Then, yeah, we'll go with that.

Caite:

Mud on the road.

Caite:

Yes.

Arlene:

Yeah.

Arlene:

Muddy tires.

Arlene:

I'm sorry.

Arlene:

Yeah.

Caite:

Well

Arlene:

done.

Arlene:

All right.

Arlene:

Let's introduce our guest for this week.

Arlene:

All right.

Arlene:

Today we're talking to Billy J.

Arlene:

Miller, an author, photographer, and speaker from Alberta, Canada.

Arlene:

Her new book is called Farm Kids Stories from Our Lives.

Arlene:

So we knew that she was our kind of person and that we had

Arlene:

to have her on the podcast.

Arlene:

Billy, we start each of our interviews with the same question.

Arlene:

This is a way to introduce yourself to our listeners, and

Arlene:

we ask what are you growing?

Arlene:

So this can cover crops and livestock, families, businesses, all kinds of things.

Arlene:

Billy, what are you growing?

Billi:

What are we growing?

Billi:

We are growing canola, flax, wheat, oats, and barley on our Eastern Alberta.

Billi:

Mixed grain farm, mixed cattle and grain farm.

Billi:

We also have some cows.

Billi:

We're also growing two young ladies named Madeline and Kate, ages 10 and eight.

Billi:

We're raising a Bernese mountain dog and any number of farm cats.

Billi:

It's a combination of things.

Billi:

Yeah.

Caite:

I'm just gonna interject.

Caite:

I got to meet my first burner last week , and it was amazing.

Caite:

Best dog ever.

Caite:

So fluff.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

Such big feat and so

Billi:

fluffy, huge feat.

Billi:

We had a contractor here working on our yard the other day, and he's I've

Billi:

never seen bigger feet on a dog before.

Billi:

It's just, Yeah, they have such soft parts and such big bodies.

Billi:

That's awesome.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

This dog was really convinced that he was a lap dog, and he's apparently well

Caite:

onto 200 pounds, and he was just really ready to climb right up and sit on me.

Caite:

I'm like, I'll let you, I, it's fine by me.

Caite:

But, his owner said they tried to discourage that sort of thing in

Caite:

the interest of not killing anyone.

Caite:

All right.

Caite:

Now we can actually get back to the interview.

Caite:

Okay.

Caite:

The pop talk segment of our show.

Arlene:

So in the more farm specific questions, what kind

Arlene:

of cows are we talking about?

Arlene:

Everyone always wants to know the uh, The lineage of the lifestyle.

Arlene:

Yeah,

Billi:

of course.

Billi:

And I'm always the best farm wife in the world.

Billi:

When I say that's my hobbies.

Billi:

My hobbies.

Billi:

The big cow guy.

Billi:

We've got, And I always say, yeah, we've got some black ones, we've got some

Billi:

tan ones, we've got some brown ones, we've got some red ones, . Perfect.

Caite:

Are you eating

Billi:

them or milking them?

Billi:

We have a cow calf operation.

Caite:

Okay.

Caite:

That, see, that really narrows it down if you discuss

Billi:

what you with them.

Billi:

Yeah.

Billi:

You gotcha.

Billi:

Yeah.

Billi:

No dairy here.

Caite:

All right.

Caite:

So what is your background like when it comes to agriculture?

Caite:

Did you grow up on a farm or is this kind of a new thing for you?

Billi:

It's, it com it wasn't completely foreign, but I

Billi:

really didn't grow up on a farm.

Billi:

I was raised, I always tell people I came from the most opposite

Billi:

background as my husband did.

Billi:

My husband is from a fourth generation, he's a fourth generation farmer.

Billi:

We live on his original homestead.

Billi:

We he's got all the history and the deep roots that I always wished I had and

Billi:

that I never had, to be honest, I come from a completely opposite background

Billi:

that had a mixed cast of characters.

Billi:

I moved around a lot.

Billi:

Not to get too serious, too deep into the interview, but divorced

Billi:

background, divorced family.

Billi:

My mother's on her fourth marriage.

Billi:

We have a very challenged relationship and it's, yeah to be honest, my husband and

Billi:

this farm and this life has offered me,

Billi:

the life that I've always could have imagined, put it that way.

Billi:

So yeah, I

Caite:

I'm in a lot the same place.

Caite:

Billi I moved I think 38 times before I met my husband.

Caite:

I was 32 when we got married, and he has lived on the same

Caite:

property literally his entire life.

Caite:

And he's also a fourth generation on this property, so Isn't that

Billi:

interesting?

Billi:

In a lot of the same spot.

Billi:

Dean and I were 34, so I understand.

Billi:

Yeah.

Billi:

Like definitely not the younger couple, , we were 34 when we met.

Billi:

I was 36 when I had my first girl, 38 when I had my second girl.

Billi:

And yeah, being able to offer them this, the deep roots in

Billi:

history is pretty awesome too.

Billi:

Having said that though, like just to go deeper into that, I did

Billi:

grow up in usually a smaller town.

Billi:

So I live, I lived up until grade eight in a small Saskatchewan town.

Billi:

We did at one point, like for certain periods of my life, we did actually

Billi:

rent on a dairy farm in Saskatchewan.

Billi:

So that's what I meant when I said I wasn't completely foreign.

Billi:

And two, farming, I was around it.

Billi:

And definitely loved that experience of being renters on

Billi:

the dairy farm in Saskatchewan.

Billi:

And then I did grow up and Graduate from Lloydminster, which

Billi:

is the nearest town we live now.

Billi:

But then it was after, high school, I had immediately moved away.

Billi:

I did a stint in Europe.

Billi:

I went to Germany when I was 18 for about six months, and did some traveling

Billi:

there and learning the language and kind of immersing myself in the culture.

Billi:

And then my life took me to Calgary, where I started university and

Billi:

began working in the private sector.

Billi:

I lived there and worked there for 10.

Billi:

And then I moved on to Edmonton and lived there for six, working for the provincial

Billi:

government, which is when I met Dean.

Billi:

And if you heard in that part of the story, I did live in Calgary

Billi:

longer, so yes, I am a Flames fan.

Arlene:

as Canadians, we need to declare our hockey allegiances at certain point.

Billi:

Especially given this round of playoffs.

Billi:

Yes.

Billi:

I am definitely Allegion to the flames.

Billi:

Yes.

Billi:

. I got it.

Caite:

Arlene, you live in a family home as well, right?

Caite:

Yes.

Caite:

Pardon me?

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

Okay.

Caite:

Oh, I was asking Arlene if she lived in a family home as well.

Caite:

This is totally off script, but whatever.

Caite:

Did either of you experience a sense of disappointment or grief

Caite:

at not getting a, not picking out the home that you live in and.

Caite:

Not having a choice about it.

Caite:

It was shocking to me to realize how emotional I got about not

Caite:

getting a choice and where we live.

Billi:

That is so interesting.

Billi:

Arlene, you could start if you want and then I can, so I

Arlene:

know, but at the same time, I grew up on a farm and in

Arlene:

the same house my entire life.

Arlene:

My dad was a, my dad was a dairy farmer.

Arlene:

My parents were dairy farmers.

Arlene:

So while both of you had that situation of moving a lot, I was in a situation

Arlene:

where I never had to worry about that.

Arlene:

There were other kids who would move in and out and be the new kid in the class,

Arlene:

and I knew that we weren't going anywhere.

Arlene:

We were where the cows were and this is where we were gonna stay.

Arlene:

And when my husband's grandmother decided to move out of the house that

Arlene:

we currently live in, , we did a full renovation at that time because this

Arlene:

house had been continually lived in by the same family, generations of the same

Arlene:

family since it was built in the 1860s.

Arlene:

So while there had been lots of little additions and renovations,

Arlene:

there were none of those modern conveniences like insulation.

Arlene:

There was

Billi:

no

Arlene:

duct work.

Arlene:

The electrical, like as soon as the electrician came in, he ripped

Arlene:

the whole electrical system out and started from scratch because things

Arlene:

had just been added over time.

Arlene:

So we actually were living in another house while this house got renovated.

Arlene:

So I did get to pick a lot of features.

Arlene:

We tore the house apart and then put it back almost exactly

Billi:

the same way it was, But I also loved

Arlene:

it the way it was and the historical elements.

Arlene:

So for me, I didn't have that.

Arlene:

But that's not to say that's everyone's situation.

Billi:

What about you, Billy?

Billi:

It's interesting you, I've never been asked that before and

Billi:

there was a little bit of that.

Billi:

Definitely.

Billi:

Not that in any way, I was disappointed with this place, but with the feeling

Billi:

that it didn't feel mine for a long time.

Billi:

It took a long time before that happened.

Billi:

And I know a lot of people of resonate with that in farm life.

Billi:

If you move on to a property, right?

Billi:

And we don't share this property, so the property is just we are

Billi:

the only ones that live here.

Billi:

My husband had already built a shop here, all of that kind of stuff.

Billi:

But it took until, so the house that we live in is a 1960, mid sixties.

Billi:

It was like the second house that his grandparents had

Billi:

built, actually third, possibly.

Billi:

Anyway, I think it's the third house that had been on this property.

Billi:

But you know how that goes over years.

Billi:

So it was built in the sixties and it was literally like picked out from the Eaton's

Billi:

catalog as it used to be back in the day.

Billi:

It was that rectangle house that exists all over the prairies.

Billi:

And so we had lived here for 10 years.

Billi:

We got married in 2010.

Billi:

Two kids.

Billi:

We had lived here for 10 years before we were able to do the full renovation.

Billi:

Obviously there was land and legal ownership, all that kind of stuff

Billi:

that had to happen beforehand.

Billi:

And then we ended up renovating and moving back in two years ago.

Billi:

So it wasn't until really that we had done a full renovation based on our own design

Billi:

to this house to make it our forever home that it started feeling like mine.

Billi:

Having the mortgage on it also obviously helps , yeah.

Billi:

When you're paying for it.

Billi:

Paying for that mortgage . Yeah.

Billi:

It's there was a little bit of that, not that I wanted to move

Billi:

Caitlin, but it was because.

Billi:

Yeah.

Billi:

Like it wasn't necessarily our choice.

Billi:

And you always especially if you did move around a lot and I don't

Billi:

have a home or even quite frankly, the family to go back to growing

Billi:

up like so many other people do.

Billi:

So there was a little bit of that, feeling I guess longing or missing the opportunity

Billi:

to be able to like house search, look for that dream home for yourself or whatever.

Billi:

But having said that, getting through the story like we have and

Billi:

being where we are now, I cannot picture my life being anywhere else.

Billi:

And I have such a love for this place, this yard, the fact that my kids walk to

Billi:

school, I watch them nearly every morning and I'm waiting for them when they get

Billi:

off the bus, when they walk up and down this beautiful tree lined lane way.

Billi:

And these spruce trees are absolutely huge and so tall.

Billi:

And my kids' granddad planted those trees with his mom and his aunties,

Billi:

And it's like you sit there and I I always feel like I see my life

Billi:

or see life in pictures, right?

Billi:

Cause I take photos, but it's imagine those trees getting, continuously growing.

Billi:

And my kids are continuously growing beside them, and yeah, having said that,

Billi:

I'm super happy with where we're at now.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

I'm just gonna feel bad, Billy, because I actually, I do love our house.

Caite:

I really do.

Caite:

But one of.

Caite:

Things is that, I was raised my mom as a historian by training.

Caite:

And so I learned to really value that and to really value family histories and

Caite:

that sort of thing, and that's actually a lot of where I learned to enjoy talking

Caite:

to people is she worked for the state historical society interviewing folks.

Caite:

Oh.

Caite:

And so I would go along and, sit at these old farmhouse kitchen

Caite:

tables and eat homemade cookies and listen to old folks talk.

Caite:

And I was raised to really value that.

Caite:

But now when I'm like, there's this tree in the yard, who the

Caite:

actual fuck planted this tree here?

Caite:

Why is this here?

Caite:

And I'll ask and I'll be like, Can you, we just cut this tree down.

Caite:

And my husband, no joke, my husband and his grandpa brought some

Caite:

trees back from a fishing trip to Canada or some damn, I don't know.

Caite:

But now there is this tree.

Caite:

In the most ridiculous place that can never be taken down.

Caite:

And it is the ugliest thing and no one can ever touch it because it's because of the

Billi:

history

Caite:

tree.

Caite:

And I'm like, and I do deeply appreciate the histories.

Caite:

I hear about this house tonight.

Caite:

I love our house despite things like, the fire marshal came in

Caite:

after we got electrical work done and said, You've never had a fire.

Caite:

And I said, Not that I know of.

Caite:

And he looked at me and he said, Are you sure?

Caite:

I'm like, Oh wow.

Caite:

Please don't say that

Caite:

. Billi: Yeah.

Caite:

Don't say that.

Caite:

But then there's things that you just, you can't change stuff because

Caite:

yeah, that's how it's always been.

Billi:

And yeah.

Billi:

And I.

Caite:

Yeah, for us as well, I hear people say but you're so lucky

Caite:

because you don't have a mortgage.

Caite:

And I'm like, A, we are paying for the farm, and B, we're still paying for it.

Caite:

It's not, just because we don't write a check to the bank doesn't mean that

Caite:

somebody is just handing us this.

Caite:

Yes, here you go.

Caite:

No, it just means that the bank isn't getting the money.

Caite:

And that's, and it works well for us and I'm incredibly

Caite:

grateful for this opportunity.

Caite:

But yeah, someone who's used to having a lot more flexibility and freedom, this

Caite:

moving into one house and then being moved into the farmhouse and then knowing

Caite:

that hopefully we'll get old and our kids will take over and we'll move into

Caite:

the house where my in-laws live now.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

Is a little.

Billi:

A little much.

Billi:

No, I absolutely get that.

Billi:

And you can't move that damn tree.

Billi:

And it's this

Caite:

fucking tree that I'm I don't wanna be that person who's I

Caite:

hope this tree is hit by lightning.

Caite:

It's 15 feet from our house.

Caite:

Like I, but

Billi:

God.

Billi:

But if it were hit

Arlene:

by lightning, it didn't do any other damage,

Billi:

then that wouldn't be worse.

Billi:

That would be alright.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

Watch now the street's gonna get hit by lightning and my husband's

Caite:

gonna be like, if you hadn't talked about this, Sorry dear.

Billi:

So Katie

Arlene:

was talking about her history with interviewing people,

Arlene:

and two of the books that you

Billi:

already have out Billy are about farm wise.

Arlene:

So I'm farm wives, so I'm assuming that took a lot of the interviewing,

Arlene:

what brought you to that project and and brought those books into existence?

Arlene:

Yeah.

Billi:

So my first book, Farm Wives and Profile 17 Women, 17 Candid Questions

Billi:

about their Lives, photos and recipes was my first project coming here.

Billi:

As I said, I had lived in Edmonton, working for the provincial government

Billi:

when I met my husband Okay, So from when we met from the weekend that we met on

Billi:

a fishing trip in Northern Saskatchewan To me living here and us being married

Billi:

was happened over the span of 14 months.

Billi:

So it was pretty quick transition.

Billi:

Yeah.

Billi:

But when I came here I had been looking, obviously I didn't wanna

Billi:

give up my government job, or government experience, all of that.

Billi:

So I was looking for any government position in Lloydminster to

Billi:

Vermillion, which is where we live.

Billi:

So we are basically just to explain where we are as well.

Billi:

We're two and a half hours directly east of Edmonton.

Billi:

So we reside very close to the Saskatchewan border.

Billi:

And we're about 25 kilometers from the Saskatchewan border.

Billi:

And, but we are on the Alberta side.

Billi:

And so there are two ta, two smaller cities that we live

Billi:

in between and south of.

Billi:

And they take about, 35 minutes to travel to each.

Billi:

And so I could have been looking for a job in either of those cities.

Billi:

So I landed the only provincial position that was available in Vermillion.

Billi:

And I took that and it was a job at the courthouse and it

Billi:

was a really big pay cut, but at least it kept me in government.

Billi:

And so I took the job and like I said, that got me here.

Billi:

And remind me of your question again, so I know I'm not going too off.

Billi:

No, I was just

Arlene:

asking you about how your farm wise books came to

Billi:

be.

Billi:

Exactly.

Billi:

So we.

Billi:

Had a child.

Billi:

We had my first child in November of 2011, so taking my maternity

Billi:

leave from that government job.

Billi:

I'd had this idea when I got here and like after we got married and getting to

Billi:

know this community so well in particular, getting to know the women so well, like

Billi:

my mother-in-law, the women around her, seeing all these women around here.

Billi:

Kind of the way I picture it was, I started becoming so intimately

Billi:

involved in these farms and these families and this community, right?

Billi:

And you see all these farms and all this activity and all this, work going

Billi:

on, buzzing around, scurrying around.

Billi:

But the thing that I really saw were these women.

Billi:

And I saw these women scurrying around and working so hard and.

Billi:

I felt holding these farms up on their backs, And I saw these women, they had, we

Billi:

have this beautiful old prairie hall down the road from our place called Early Hall.

Billi:

We live in the early district, which is a really storied and wonderful

Billi:

district in this area of the prairies that I am so lucky to live.

Billi:

And they had a wedding shower for Dean and I there and all, and it was

Billi:

like everyone knew what to do, right?

Billi:

Like they announced the date of the shower and all of the women showed

Billi:

up and the ladies brought baking.

Billi:

And all of the women come and.

Billi:

Men came to the shower too, actually, which is really neat.

Billi:

And everybody came and the men sat on one side and the women sat on the

Billi:

other side and everybody visited and everybody, but it was like the women

Billi:

did all the work for that, right?

Billi:

And I harvest, my first harvest, I just remember watching my mother-in-law

Billi:

and ag going, Oh my gosh, this woman is just, and no complaining.

Billi:

You You just haul those meals, get them into the back of the

Billi:

car, you drive to the field, you.

Billi:

These women amazed me and I looked at them with awe and reverence and I

Billi:

just thought, they're absolute to me, they were the heroes of the story.

Billi:

And I really felt so when I was on my maternity leave, I had begun the

Billi:

idea had ruminated for this book.

Billi:

And so a little bit later on I had long stretch or decided

Billi:

not to go back to my job, and I started freelance writing on the.

Billi:

So I started writing some smaller stories for the community newspaper and things

Billi:

like that, and photography was always a love and passion of mine as well.

Billi:

So in 2012, I started officially my job as a freelance writer and taking photographs

Billi:

of farm family and things like that.

Billi:

And so these were the stories that had just started coming to me.

Billi:

And so I knew as a dream, I wanted to write a book.

Billi:

I'd always wanted to write a book, but I had this idea for this book and I was

Billi:

like, I'm gonna write about the women.

Billi:

I wanna tell their stories.

Billi:

I wanna sit down at their kitchen tables and start interviewing them.

Billi:

I wanted to ask them story questions I had entering this new

Billi:

life as a farm wife for me too.

Billi:

I knew for me it wasn't necessarily going to be the same.

Billi:

I knew that it, I wasn't gonna be able to fill those rules as a traditional farm.

Billi:

Like so many of the rest of them did.

Billi:

But I wanted to talk to them and I wanted to get their stories.

Billi:

And so that's what I did.

Billi:

I interviewed 17 women.

Billi:

It took four and a half years.

Billi:

Mind you, this was not a very quick process.

Billi:

I had a daughter, , and we were running a farm ourselves.

Billi:

And and it was busy, just like everyone else is, and.

Billi:

17 women, I sat them down.

Billi:

I asked them all questions like, what was the best part of this

Billi:

life as a farm wife for you?

Billi:

What was the hardest part of this life as a farm wife for you?

Billi:

What advice would you give women marrying farmers today?

Billi:

Is there anything you wish you could have changed?

Billi:

Is there, so many questions that I just wanted to know the answers to, but then

Billi:

I also got to pair it with wonderful photographs of them doing what they loved

Billi:

or sitting at their kitchen table or just wherever it was we happened to have met.

Billi:

And a handwritten recipes because he doesn't love a recipe book.

Billi:

And I think that was another beautiful part of it.

Billi:

The best project, or the best piece of it for me too was I was

Billi:

getting to the completion part of this book and I knew I loved it.

Billi:

I was really proud of how it was looking, but there was something missing for

Billi:

me and I just wanted to be able to do something really special for these women.

Billi:

And so I had reached out to those of them.

Billi:

Who I was able to contact their families, their children, and I had reached out

Billi:

to them and I said, Tell me about the impact your mothers had on your life.

Billi:

And so a lot of these children who I was able to reach ended up writing,

Billi:

submitting a written piece for me, answering that question, the impact

Billi:

their mamas had on their life.

Billi:

And to me, that was the most meaningful piece of the project for me.

Billi:

Because these, as you guys probably are well aware, these aren't necessarily

Billi:

families or a job where, the farm wife or the mom is sat down frequently

Billi:

told, Thank you for all that you do.

Billi:

And where they're as appreciated as I felt they could have and should have been.

Billi:

And so being able to offer that was, yeah, definitely a big thing for me.

Billi:

Very meaningful.

Billi:

Did

Arlene:

you find that the people, their families, and their spouses reading

Arlene:

the book were finding out things that they didn't know about these women?

Billi:

About the Oh, absolutely.

Billi:

Yeah, absolutely.

Billi:

It was really nice.

Billi:

Oh, so this community that I live, we're not the only ones that have

Billi:

been here for a hundred years.

Billi:

There are obviously lots of other people as well.

Billi:

And being able to talk to like their grandkids or, is, means a lot.

Billi:

It means a lot to a lot of the people here that their grandmother

Billi:

or mother, was in that book.

Billi:

And yeah, a lot of them, they didn't sit down and ask their

Billi:

grandmother those kinds of questions.

Billi:

Yeah, it was, I think it was really nice for a lot of people

Billi:

to be able to read that side of the women that not all of us knew.

Billi:

. And then

Arlene:

your second book, it was on a, the same topic.

Arlene:

Was it a continuation of the first, or what did, what does it look like?

Billi:

It was, So the first book, all the women were between 55 and 90, and so they.

Billi:

Fit the traditional role of a farm wife, I would say.

Billi:

And these are the women that I was drawn to when I first came here.

Billi:

These are the women that were surrounding me.

Billi:

And these are the women that I felt, a heart connection to because, and

Billi:

I'll, and I'll be honest, I know serendipitously it, I respected

Billi:

and loved in these women Exactly.

Billi:

That, which I didn't have.

Billi:

They were the glue holding their families together.

Billi:

They were, they did everything for their families.

Billi:

And I came from a very opposite story of that.

Billi:

So I know that's what I was, so drawn to and so connected to.

Billi:

The second book though, was it's called Farm Wives too, an inspiring look of

Billi:

the of the new Canadian farm wives.

Billi:

And so what I wanted to do is attach those, some of those same questions,

Billi:

but also to a bunch of new questions to the next generations of farm life.

Billi:

So women like me, women from their twenties, up to their, anywhere in

Billi:

their fifties, women who are more generations removed from the farm.

Billi:

But who were coming onto their farm from a variety of circumstances.

Billi:

Some who did refer to themselves as a farm wife and some who didn't refer to

Billi:

themselves as a farm wife, to be honest.

Billi:

But they all agreed to be in the book, knowing the title.

Billi:

And I wanted to talk to them about what that looked like for them.

Billi:

I knew there was other women like me.

Billi:

I knew there was other women very different from me, but women who

Billi:

were doing things their own way.

Billi:

And I felt like they deserved a voice.

Billi:

And I also felt like I wanted to have kind of a resource or something.

Billi:

I wanted to put a book out there in existence where other

Billi:

women could look at that and be like, Wow, that's a great story.

Billi:

I could do something like that.

Billi:

Or, that makes me realize that, there's nothing wrong with

Billi:

the way I am doing things.

Billi:

Or like there are a lot interesting stories out there.

Billi:

And there are a.

Billi:

Complex stories out there, Caitlin, you were talking about, your story

Billi:

about, living in the house or landing on, a lot of people share yards,

Billi:

A lot of people move into house.

Billi:

They're just such a variety of circumstances out there.

Billi:

And I think sometimes when you, like me and when you don't come from the farming

Billi:

background, I think a lot of women are, have questions or have concerns or,

Billi:

just, I guess don't necessarily know where to go, or you feel like you have

Billi:

to do things in a certain way, don't you?

Billi:

I think a lot of times.

Billi:

And yeah, that was a big part of the reasoning of putting

Billi:

this book out into the world.

Caite:

I know too, I find it interesting, you the older I get and the older my

Caite:

kids get because I'm 41, so I'm, also in that slightly older mom because my kids

Caite:

are four and five, so for this area, I'm closer to grandma age than to mom age.

Caite:

, no, seriously.

Caite:

Yeah, there's, the older I get, the more I understand my grandmothers especially,

Caite:

and that there's so much about, women didn't used to do X, Y, and Z and because

Caite:

they couldn't, it wasn't that they never wanted to, it was that they couldn't.

Caite:

And the stories I hear about this whole generation of women that, during

Caite:

the war went off and had these fairly grand adventures and then came home,

Caite:

got married, got knocked up, and never said anything about it again, and.

Caite:

How amazing it is that now we have this opportunity to do things like telling

Caite:

our stories and publishing books and going on adventures and, but at the

Caite:

same time, wanting to do things like this podcast and have the opportunity to

Caite:

tell our stories about all these things that women in non rural backgrounds

Caite:

might not understand on the same level.

Caite:

Like I know for a lot of folks if I say my in-laws live across the road

Caite:

and there's this look of horror, which I do understand because some

Caite:

people have really shitty in-laws.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

I am very lucky that I have great in-laws.

Caite:

But it's hard to have that conversation with folks who are living in a

Caite:

time and place where having ear in laws a couple hundred feet

Caite:

away would be considered strange.

Caite:

So this getting to have adventures, but also getting to just come

Caite:

back and do the same things.

Caite:

And I was not ignoring you when I hopped up.

Caite:

I was looking for a book by Evelyn Beby who wrote a weekly column for 70

Caite:

years for a Iowa small town newspaper and had always put a recipe in it.

Caite:

I was gonna send me the info, but

Billi:

Amazing.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

Just these.

Caite:

How many of these new things we're doing are not new at all.

Caite:

She did a radio show for most of those 70 years as well, so it's basically

Caite:

podcasting before it was cool.

Billi:

That's right.

Billi:

Yeah.

Caite:

So Billy, we'd love to know more too about your newest book, Project Farm

Caite:

Kids, and can you tell us about that book and what it looks like and who you

Billi:

talk to for that, Abso Oh, absolutely.

Billi:

I'm self-publishing this book just like I fully self-published my last book,

Billi:

which was a little kid's book I wrote at the start of Covid with my daughters.

Billi:

And I'd actually taken a course that walked you through the literal steps

Billi:

from start to finish of getting your book out and doing it entirely on your own.

Billi:

And self-publishing works best for me for the kind of interviews that I do.

Billi:

I've never traditionally published, if you do, it could take absolute

Billi:

years before you get your book out.

Billi:

And because a lot of the people in my books are in their nineties,

Billi:

or in the case of this farm kid's book, I have a 100 year old woman.

Billi:

In this book, I wanna get this book out in their lifetimes.

Billi:

So I self-publish and that is the way that I've learned to do it, and I just do it.

Billi:

And anyway, so yeah.

Billi:

But anyway, this book, I have 27 new people in this book.

Billi:

And so farm kids stories from our lives is different in the

Billi:

sense that it includes boys too.

Billi:

This.

Billi:

And so I've interviewed girls and boys, men and women from the age

Billi:

of five all the way up to 100.

Billi:

And it isn't just current farm kids.

Billi:

Granted that would be one hilarious book and it would be so fabulous.

Billi:

But I love speaking with seniors.

Billi:

I just do.

Billi:

I just spent an hour yesterday doing a big application form for.

Billi:

Our health region.

Billi:

I just decide I need to volunteer in the hospitals.

Billi:

I just wanna, I could sit with old people all day long and just let

Billi:

them tell me stories about, So I know that's a big part of this book.

Billi:

And as I said, I interviewed 24, 27 people.

Billi:

These are kids all just pick people picked that I know that were referred to me.

Billi:

Some of the kids go to school with my kids.

Billi:

One woman is my husband's grandmother, But it's just a variety of people.

Billi:

And I also reached back out to families from my farm kids too,

Billi:

book as well, talked to grandkids of their, or kids of theirs.

Billi:

But anyway, I talked to them and asked them all different kinds of questions

Billi:

about what is life like being raised a farm kid, whether that'd be now

Billi:

or whether that be in the 1920s.

Billi:

Because what a cool way to look at the, what a cool frame of reference and what

Billi:

a cool way to compare, what are some of the troubles we deal with now versus what

Billi:

are some of the troubles you ha, what did the typical day after school look like

Billi:

in 1933 versus what it looks like now?

Billi:

I think one thing I've learned is any single person that I have spoken to about

Billi:

who has raised a farm kid all loved it.

Billi:

Not one person.

Billi:

I'm not saying people don't have some bad memories to, of course you

Billi:

will, but any, anyone I've spoken to now from adulthood is there's no

Billi:

other no better way to be raised.

Billi:

I have the best memories I've got, the things we used to do,

Billi:

the things we got to learn.

Billi:

They just talk about all of this stuff with reverence and I feel like

Billi:

that is such a nice way to, I just, I wanna be able to capture that.

Billi:

And express that life for people who either A, if you were raised

Billi:

that way, these stories will all encompass those good memories

Billi:

that you'll think of yourself.

Billi:

But I, it's gonna be a really nice way to show people this life who

Billi:

don't necessarily know, because I think there's a lot of misinformation

Billi:

out there about, urban versus rural.

Billi:

I think there's a lot of, people don't know necessarily

Billi:

where your food comes from.

Billi:

People don't know, you hear so many things.

Billi:

This, touches into a bigger aspect of it.

Billi:

But you hear so much information out there, misinformation

Billi:

about food, about beef.

Billi:

Farm life and all of that.

Billi:

And people don't necessarily know the truth.

Billi:

People don't necessarily know, I hear, you hear so many things about

Billi:

factory farm, farming's bad, big farming's bad, all this kind of stuff.

Billi:

People don't realize what the high percentage of people farms

Billi:

are, farm families in this country a lot in the states as well.

Billi:

But farms are made up of people, farms are made up of families,

Billi:

and I think there's nowhere truer than that, than in our country.

Billi:

And I just look forward to telling those stories.

Arlene:

I look forward to reading it.

Arlene:

Do you, can you share one of your favorites or is it all

Arlene:

unlock and key at this point?

Arlene:

It's not

Billi:

under all a key.

Billi:

I've been, I have some snippets that I publish on my blog.

Billi:

You can, my website I just wanna share is billy j miller.com and if you go on

Billi:

there, you'll find all the information for all of my books and what I'm working

Billi:

on currently and stuff like that.

Billi:

I think my favorite in my heart has to be like these younger kids' interviews now.

Billi:

They talk with such One of the beauty aspects of it is, you ask, when you

Billi:

ask someone who are in, who's in their nineties, the perspective of what

Billi:

are your best memories of your mom?

Billi:

What are the key memories you have at the stage of your life of your dad?

Billi:

That's so meaningful for me because I felt like to be able to, once you get

Billi:

to that stage of your life and none of us know what that stage is gonna be

Billi:

like yet, once you get to that stage of your life, I fit, the way I picture

Billi:

it is what comes to a bottle where the bottle nears or narrows at the.

Billi:

And I feel like only the most important stuff remains at that stage.

Billi:

So when you're a hundred, what do you still think of when you think of your mom?

Billi:

What are the memories that stick with you the most?

Billi:

What are the feelings that, stick with you the most and when you think of your dad?

Billi:

That's the kind of stuff that I thought about as I was interviewing these people.

Billi:

To interview like a six year old now and ask them that question,

Billi:

you get very different answers.

Billi:

Like this little guy, Max me, was, he goes to my daughter's school.

Billi:

I'm like, tell me the coolest thing about your mom.

Billi:

And I know his mom Sheena quite well, and Max says, Oh

Billi:

yeah, oh, my mom goes to town.

Billi:

She gets a lot of groceries, . Oh my God, yay mom.

Billi:

She carries so many

Arlene:

bags in

Billi:

from the car and then there are these two little guys, Charlie and

Billi:

Ben Ketty, they're from Nova Scotia.

Billi:

And that was the other thing.

Billi:

I interviewed people I, for farm wives too, was the same.

Billi:

I branched out and interviewed people from across the country for that book.

Billi:

The First Farm Wives book was very centered to my community because

Billi:

these were the women that I knew and that I had the opportunity to sit

Billi:

down and meet with farm wives too.

Billi:

I expect, because I wanted to tell the story a little more.

Billi:

Canada wide and farm kids' stories from our lives is the same.

Billi:

I've I branched out a little more and I spoke to actually This woman's children

Billi:

and they're from Nova Scotia and they have a total, they farm strawberries out

Billi:

there and different things that we just don't do as much of over here, right?

Billi:

In Alberta.

Billi:

So it was just fabulous.

Billi:

And I talked to those two little boys, and of course you're

Billi:

doing this via Zoom, right?

Billi:

And via written interview, because I certainly didn't have the funding

Billi:

being self-published and all to jet set all across the country.

Billi:

But these two little boys, to talk to them about their life, what, when

Billi:

they run the farm, when they get older, it's just fabulous, right?

Billi:

Like you just see things through the eyes of a child and all of them.

Billi:

Also and I think, if you notice that with your own kids or whatever,

Billi:

when you ask them what they wanna be when they grow up, it almost

Billi:

always includes a farmer, doesn't it?

Billi:

Granted it's their frame of reference, but they have all these wild and

Billi:

amazing views of what they wanna do.

Billi:

And it always includes the farm, and yeah.

Billi:

So you know this little Max, me, and there was another three

Billi:

little girls that I interviewed.

Billi:

There's this, and this is thanks to the wonder of social media.

Billi:

There's a gentleman on Twitter I had come across years ago

Billi:

and started following him.

Billi:

And he's a dairy farmer from Washington State.

Billi:

His name's Dwayne Faber.

Billi:

And he is hilarious.

Billi:

Like he just, he would publish these one-liners about farm life.

Billi:

He's got a beautiful wife, three beautiful daughters, like just this adorable family.

Billi:

And he just talks about being a dad and a husband and.

Billi:

A dairy farmer, right?

Billi:

And he talks about this.

Billi:

And so I had followed him for years and I ended up reaching out to him.

Billi:

And yeah, typically these are Canadian stories, but I'm

Billi:

like, I'm not gonna judge here.

Billi:

So I asked him, I said, Would your daughters be interested

Billi:

in doing this interview?

Billi:

Because I think coming from you, they have to be hilarious as well.

Billi:

And this is my project and this is what it's about.

Billi:

And he said, Absolutely.

Billi:

So he had actually mailed me handwritten interviews from his girls

Billi:

to talking about, life on their farm.

Billi:

And it's just fabulous.

Billi:

So I think the story is amazing in the sense that it, that juxtaposition of,

Billi:

you read the wisdom of a hundred year old and then it's peppered with a, all

Billi:

these deep, long interviews, peppered with these hilarious interviews and

Billi:

yeah, it's a project I'm so proud of.

Billi:

And I can't wait to get it out.

Billi:

And I plan to have it out in time for your summer read here.

Billi:

So yeah, it's coming.

Billi:

That sounds

Caite:

awesome.

Caite:

So Billy, how do you deal with getting people past, feeling like they don't

Caite:

have a story to tell or like they're gonna sound stupid or whatever?

Caite:

You know what, nobody already has something

Billi:

to say.

Billi:

Yeah.

Billi:

I know it's true, isn't it?

Billi:

And that's something I talk about when I do speeches about in particular and

Billi:

talk about my first book that was.

Billi:

The thing that kind of gobsmacked me personally the most was how the sheer

Billi:

amount of women who said to me as I sat them down for my first book, the

Billi:

amount of women who said to me, I don't understand why you wanna talk to me.

Billi:

I haven't done anything.

Billi:

I'm just a farm wife.

Billi:

And I looked at the, and I would just, my mouth would draw because

Billi:

I'm like, You haven't done anything.

Billi:

Have you seen.

Billi:

Everything that you do, and I think how I got them over it was I published

Billi:

a book about them, and I will often talk about the book launch night

Billi:

of my first book, and I could still put me into tears thinking about it.

Billi:

I couldn't have imagined a better book launch experience for any

Billi:

book, let alone my first book.

Billi:

But I had rented a restaurant, a beautiful locally run restaurant that

Billi:

was called The Root in Lloydminster.

Billi:

This was in 2016, in January.

Billi:

And I had rented it out and I thought there was just enough people.

Billi:

If I invite the.

Billi:

There's spouses and they could invite one other guest basically.

Billi:

And then that would be the capacity for this beautiful, homey, quaint restaurant.

Billi:

Big but not too big and just perfect.

Billi:

So that is who we invited and that is who came.

Billi:

But also with the addition of some local media that had come, which I was so

Billi:

touched about as well, because here was this book that I wrote that I literally

Billi:

thought would be, Sitting at our local, I traditionally, or I self-publish.

Billi:

However, saying that I do get them on all official platforms, so they're still on

Billi:

Amazon and chapters and all of that stuff.

Billi:

But literally this first book, you have no idea how it's gonna go.

Billi:

I thought it'd be at our grocery store and our local home hardware and I'd

Billi:

sell it to the grandkids and giddy up.

Billi:

I was happy.

Billi:

Yeah.

Billi:

Few issues at the library, yeah.

Billi:

A few copies at the library.

Billi:

I was all excited.

Billi:

And so I had this book launch and all these women came and it was evening,

Billi:

and that, whether it was, and the lighting was lower, and it was just,

Billi:

I had a book sitting on the table, for all of these women and a glass

Billi:

of wine waiting for them and stuff.

Billi:

And these women walked in and I, I don't know if they realized

Billi:

until that night what this pro, like I remember one of the women.

Billi:

So they all wrote the interviews and I, and they're minimal edits

Billi:

in those books as well, because I'm not gonna edit their words so much

Billi:

where you don't understand them.

Billi:

I want it to be their voices.

Billi:

Seeing the variety in the interviews is amazing because some women, and

Billi:

some people, period, their answers were very long and they're very detailed.

Billi:

And then there were some women, like Shirley Davidson, my neighbor from the

Billi:

north very abrupt and short worded.

Billi:

And, I'd ask her like, Yes, no, 12.

Billi:

just kinda answered her questions very short.

Billi:

She got to the, she got to the book launch and she looked at the book and

Billi:

she goes if I knew this was gonna be a book, I would've answered my questions.

Billi:

The, but, so these women sat there and I had gone through and it was

Billi:

my, literally, it was going to be, it was my first kind of public speaking.

Billi:

Experience.

Billi:

In a situation like this, I'm just fine, but to put me on a stage in front of

Billi:

people, I tell you it, I was no forer.

Billi:

So it was a learning curve for me and the nerves were unbelievable.

Billi:

And I just wanna sit behind a laptop and write books.

Billi:

Like I'm more comfortable doing that.

Billi:

But I went up there and I told the story of my books and I told these women why I

Billi:

was so honored to tell their stories and how beautiful their contributions I felt

Billi:

were in not only just their families and their farms, but their entire community.

Billi:

And I referenced, this shower that happened at this early hall and I said,

Billi:

and I know for you guys it was just another evening and another thing on your

Billi:

to-do list to strike off, but I said, You people, like you hold this community up.

Billi:

I.

Caite:

In women's eyes and seeing

Billi:

Their eyes glistening and a lot of their husbands who are still there

Caite:

too

Billi:

putting their arm around their wife and stuff.

Billi:

And this woman had literally her, a daughter of one of the women came

Billi:

up to me after and she goes, I'm not gonna let my mom hang out with

Billi:

you anymore cuz she's a crier now.

Billi:

And she was never a crier before.

Billi:

And I just laughed.

Billi:

But, I saw that night them seeing, sometimes maybe for

Billi:

the first time, like how much.

Billi:

How much their work has meant and how, how remarkable they truly were.

Billi:

And whether they knew it before or whether they didn't.

Billi:

I think they really saw it that night.

Billi:

And that meant a lot to me, And then having the media

Billi:

there, seeing the media there.

Billi:

I have this one picture of Gerard Lamp Powell, a local journalist, and he was

Billi:

interviewing this lovely couple, Ju and Bob Stone, who are still friends of ours.

Billi:

Bob has now passed away, but Ju is still here.

Billi:

And, interviewing them.

Billi:

And I was like, Oh, how lovely is that?

Billi:

These women are in the limelight.

Billi:

And it was exactly where I felt they deserved to be.

Billi:

So yeah, it was very meaningful for me, for sure.

Billi:

Yeah.

Arlene:

You've got me crying too.

Arlene:

I

Billi:

think,

Arlene:

I love what you've said too about really seeing something in them.

Arlene:

That you were missing from their life.

Arlene:

And I think that sometimes that we can all get so complacent and just used to this is

Arlene:

the way things are and this is what we do.

Arlene:

And not really seeing the, the value that, that every person

Arlene:

brings to their community.

Arlene:

And like you said that these women are the backbone of their farms and

Arlene:

of their community and their families.

Arlene:

And they just, they don't think it's anything special,

Billi:

but it is.

Billi:

That's right.

Billi:

It really is.

Billi:

And just that stability too of them doing those jobs again

Billi:

and again year after year.

Billi:

And that family growing accustomed to that and that family, and you recognize.

Billi:

If, and when, God forbid, these women pass away too, right?

Billi:

How many farms have almost ceased operating when the

Billi:

farm wife goes for any reason.

Billi:

Yeah, it's just really remarkable to be around so many

Billi:

women and we all are, right?

Billi:

We're all around these women everywhere, on any farm, anywhere

Billi:

across the country, right?

Billi:

Yeah, I just love bringing these stories to life, and if, the family

Billi:

that I interviewed has that much more appreciation for that person at the end of

Billi:

the day, that's icing on the cake, right?

Billi:

So for sure, it's been

Arlene:

great.

Arlene:

So to lighten things up a little, Yes.

Arlene:

Can you tell us about your

Billi:

children's book?

Billi:

Yes.

Billi:

Okay.

Billi:

Maybe that won't make us cry.

Billi:

Yeah, no, this'll be good.

Billi:

This'll be So now you can see what my speeches are like, it's like half . So

Billi:

my children's book is called Bubbles.

Billi:

Took a Trip and it was really a trip, a book that happened upon us, to be honest.

Billi:

So we have this Bird's Mountain dog I told you about.

Billi:

Her name is Bubbles and we had her since she was a puppy

Billi:

and she has been Katie too.

Billi:

To answer like the best dog that you could have with children and the best

Billi:

dog on a farm cuz they're so loyal.

Billi:

She does not typically run away until this story happens.

Billi:

But so loyal.

Billi:

My daughter used to ride her and she's fine with it and she's

Billi:

just, the most beautiful dog.

Billi:

I love her to bits and I'm sure my family will all be in counseling

Billi:

when something happens to her.

Billi:

But, so when we renovated our house, we also, Arlene had to move out of the house,

Billi:

so we were actually out of here for eight months while we completed the renovation.

Billi:

And lucky for us though, there was a mobile home, a trailer that had

Billi:

gone for rent just down the road.

Billi:

So we didn't have too far.

Billi:

But by the end of eight months, like we are itching to be back home.

Billi:

And we were getting close to the renovation being complete,

Billi:

but we weren't quite there yet.

Billi:

So our dog, we decided

Billi:

anyway, so it didn't make sense to move bubbles.

Billi:

So we had made it until literally the night before we moved back home.

Billi:

So our house was ready, Bubbles was here every day.

Billi:

Bubbles still got visits from dad and granddad when they

Billi:

came to the farm to work.

Billi:

So it was just lovely.

Billi:

But the day this story happened was literally the day before we moved.

Billi:

So my husband had come to the farm, He was working as per usual, and

Billi:

then I think it was around, It was the evening he was leaving the

Billi:

farm to come back to our rental.

Billi:

So he was driving North on our Range Road and Bubbles, for whatever reason,

Billi:

decided, Oh, hey dad, where are you going?

Billi:

So she took off and started following Dean on his, in his truck.

Billi:

But Dean didn't really know or thought, Bubbles would just turn back to come home.

Billi:

Bubbles made it all the way up to the highway.

Billi:

What happened then is the story that happened in this book.

Billi:

So we're gonna now fast forward to the next morning.

Billi:

So the next morning happens and girls and I are getting up, we're getting

Billi:

ready to do the final packing in this trailer and move back home.

Billi:

And I get a text from my husband that says, Mom bubbles is missing.

Billi:

Get on Facebook and put a post out.

Billi:

And I was like, What?

Billi:

He goes, She's gone.

Billi:

She's not home.

Billi:

Like she's not here.

Billi:

You need to put a post out.

Billi:

And I was, my stomach instantly just fell to the floor and I thought to

Billi:

myself, I cannot tell the girls.

Billi:

Oh my gosh, what's gonna happen?

Billi:

I can't tell the girls.

Billi:

So I immediately put a post out, had a picture of bubbles, put it on Facebook.

Billi:

I said, Bubbles is missing.

Billi:

Here's where we live.

Billi:

Dean did see in the rear view mirror, Bubbles following him.

Billi:

So he did know that she could have landed around the highway.

Billi:

So I put a post.

Billi:

I said, Here's the highway where she was last seen.

Billi:

Has anyone seen her?

Billi:

So I just Oh, and then I got on the phone.

Billi:

I called pca.

Billi:

Course Covid hit at this point, right?

Billi:

This was literally the march that Covid was making Everything

Billi:

fall apart called spca.

Billi:

Only got the voicemail left.

Billi:

A message.

Billi:

I'm in tears.

Billi:

Surprise, surprise.

Billi:

I'm saying our Bernie's Mountain dog is missing.

Billi:

You've gotta help us.

Billi:

Has she been turned in?

Billi:

So a half an hour time span, elapsed.

Billi:

Until I made the post to a post being sent to me and drawn my attention to, and

Billi:

they said, Here's a picture for a woman.

Billi:

A woman had posted on another.

Billi:

Missing pets page for Lloydminster.

Billi:

Said, Found Bernie's mountain dog.

Billi:

So here's what happened.

Billi:

Dean leaves the farm, bubbles follows her.

Billi:

She makes it up to the highway.

Billi:

Dean turns right to go home.

Billi:

Another woman and a semi are coming this way.

Billi:

So a semi comes and passes and there's a woman in a pickup truck behind the semi.

Billi:

The woman saw a semi go.

Billi:

and then all of a sudden sees this beautiful Bernie's mound dog and she

Billi:

thinks to herself, Oh my gosh, what is this dog doing up on the highway?

Billi:

She's gonna get hit by something.

Billi:

So this woman pulls over right by my mailboxes and of course bubbles,

Billi:

like any good guard dog, she is, lays down on her back and get

Billi:

proceeds to be rubbed by this woman.

Billi:

We always say she's so friendly.

Billi:

I wonder how many would-be robbers have pet her on our farm, right?

Billi:

Cuz she's not protecting us from anything.

Billi:

This woman sees bubbles and pets, her and bubbles as just

Billi:

friendlier, as all hacking.

Billi:

She's I don't really know what to do here.

Billi:

I know that farm dogs wander, whatever, but she's This is a highway and a semi

Billi:

just went by and I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if this dog get hit.

Billi:

So she bubbles, jumps in her truck, she drives down to my

Billi:

neighbors darling Shirley Davidson.

Billi:

And Shirley was in my first book.

Billi:

She was the short answered woman.

Billi:

And this woman had come.

Billi:

To our door.

Billi:

And she happened to have some tattoos, right?

Billi:

And some bigger earrings.

Billi:

And she shows up at the door and she said, Hi, I found this dog.

Billi:

Do you know who the, who it belongs to?

Billi:

Darling Shirley know we have a dog, but they don't know what our dog looks like.

Billi:

So they're like, No, we don't know who it belongs to try up at this farm.

Billi:

So the woman gets back in the car and proceeds to drive to the

Billi:

next farm again further from us.

Billi:

And she says she stopped there, but nobody was home.

Billi:

That was Billy and Diane Mouse.

Billi:

And they weren't home.

Billi:

So she's sitting there and she's what in the heck do I do?

Billi:

So she gets her the phone and she calls her partner and

Billi:

she said, I found this dog.

Billi:

I don't know what to do.

Billi:

I know I shouldn't leave with the dog, but I don't know what to do.

Billi:

And I, I don't know how to find her owner.

Billi:

So this woman happened to work at an oil company in Lloyd.

Billi:

So she lives lived near Red Deer at the time and she worked in Lloyd.

Billi:

And so she works for a seven on seven off schedule.

Billi:

So she was on her way by my farm cuz she was going home for days off, but

Billi:

she knew she'd be back on the Sunday.

Billi:

So it was okay for her in her mind to take our dog home with her and

Billi:

then online and find the owner.

Billi:

And then she knew she'd be back this way on the Sunday.

Billi:

She also happened to have had a kennel.

Billi:

I mean it was really per really, She took our dog on a holiday is what she For sure.

Billi:

Yeah.

Billi:

While you guys were moving.

Billi:

We were moving.

Billi:

She took her to this ball.

Billi:

So anyway, so this is what she did.

Billi:

So she took her dog.

Billi:

And and then once she got home, she put the post.

Billi:

And this overnight is what happened where people found the post.

Billi:

So a half an hour time elapsed.

Billi:

So I got the text from Dean, found what D Bubbles was missing, and

Billi:

then a half an hour had gone by.

Billi:

So in that half an hour, I also got a text from my other neighbor, Dean Davidson.

Billi:

He belongs to Darling Shirley.

Billi:

He goes, Call mom.

Billi:

They said somebody came by with a dog in the back of their truck last night.

Billi:

So I called Dar and Shirley and I said, Have you seen somebody with bubbles?

Billi:

Will I hear Darling the background?

Billi:

She was a

Caite:

womans all

Billi:

over her body.

Billi:

And farmers, they're not always understanding of different people.

Billi:

So she had tattoos all over.

Billi:

I have got this picture in my head.

Billi:

My dog was taken by a gang.

Billi:

Bubbles is going into a dog fighting ring.

Billi:

I'm a mess.

Billi:

I'm like, Oh my God.

Billi:

It turned out.

Billi:

I ended up coming across the post where the woman found bubbles

Billi:

number, phone number was posted.

Billi:

I phoned her.

Billi:

I found out she had my dog.

Billi:

Bubbles, was happy.

Billi:

Everything worked out good.

Billi:

So this book is that wild story from our perspective or from

Billi:

Bubbles' perspective of, what bubbles got to do on her adventure.

Billi:

So she was at a kennel, clearly she got to play with a bunch of other dogs.

Billi:

It was just hilarious.

Billi:

It was a story that happened upon us.

Billi:

It turned out I'd never had a vision to write kids books, but as I said, I had

Billi:

done this little, it was called the Tiny Book Course and it said if you did wanna

Billi:

self-publish a book, pick a small project.

Billi:

I thought, this is a small project, something that I could do from

Billi:

start to finish and I couldn't have turned out better, honestly.

Billi:

It's just such a funny story.

Billi:

And I did all the graphics myself and included pictures of bubbles

Billi:

and other graphics I found and oh, it was just the best.

Billi:

Yep.

Billi:

So it's a children's book and we have more ideas coming down the

Billi:

pipe, so it'll be lots of fun.

Billi:

That is fun.

Arlene:

Does Bubbles know that she's famous?

Billi:

I think she has an inkling, but yeah, she does have an inkling.

Billi:

I think she knows there's something special about her, for sure.

Billi:

Yeah.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

, I feel like the upside of dogs like that too, though, that Eddie would be,

Caite:

Robert would hopefully feel so guilty.

Caite:

Although I've been told that my line of logic is not perfect here.

Caite:

I know.

Caite:

When I actually met my husband online and when we went on our first date,

Caite:

on a blind date, I brought my dog along and he said what did you like?

Caite:

Why did you bring a dog along?

Caite:

He asked me this like last year, like eight years we've been married, and

Caite:

he finally asked, I said I figured you might ax murder me, but only

Caite:

a real monster would acts murder somebody in front of their dog.

Caite:

And he is I.

Caite:

Know that I really understand that.

Caite:

I was like, Oh, made sense to me.

Caite:

And obviously it worked out okay.

Caite:

And he said, if the dog hadn't liked me, would there have been a second date?

Caite:

I said, No, there wouldn't have been arrested the first date.

Caite:

If my dog hadn't taken him.

Caite:

Would've been the end of it.

Billi:

It's no way.

Billi:

Yeah.

Billi:

Oh, that's awesome.

Billi:

A good

Caite:

judge of people.

Caite:

Yeah, for sure.

Caite:

Our motivation for starting a podcast was to connect with other

Caite:

parents who are, doing this, raising their kids on the land.

Caite:

What have some of your parenting challenges been when it comes

Caite:

to farm life in particular?

Caite:

Yeah.

Billi:

Hearing me talk and then, and reading the books.

Billi:

It is, it is magical.

Billi:

It.

Billi:

. Awesome.

Billi:

It is.

Billi:

I love it.

Billi:

I love, all of the things that they learn at what I feel is to be a much younger

Billi:

age than their urban counterparts.

Billi:

My eight year old can tell you exactly where her state comes

Billi:

from and like what part of the cow and what part of the steer.

Billi:

And yeah, I think that there are so many benefits, but if there were,

Billi:

are negatives for me it's, I did live in, in, the city for so long prior to

Billi:

moving my husband, moving in with my husband, I did feel like truly that I

Billi:

was gonna be a city person for life.

Billi:

I loved traveling.

Billi:

I traveled anywhere by myself.

Billi:

I would book my two weeks vacation off from the government and I would

Billi:

just take a trip across the country cuz I hadn't seen Nova Scotia yet.

Billi:

Like it was my goal to see every province by the time I

Billi:

was 30 and I made that happen.

Billi:

Traveling was always very big to me, eating different foods

Billi:

all of that kind of stuff.

Billi:

So if there is a negative, it would be I do get concerned sometimes

Billi:

that my children only see a very sort of homogenous way of life.

Billi:

They only see yeah, a very homogenous way of life and a very homogenous

Billi:

say culture and class of people.

Billi:

I worry sometimes that they're not seeing the variety that cities can

Billi:

provide them with on an everyday basis.

Billi:

And so because of that, I work extremely hard in, broadening

Billi:

their horizons in terms of books we read, talks that we have, and quite

Billi:

frankly, just taking them places.

Billi:

I'm gonna tell a story that happened when I think my daughter was just,

Billi:

she couldn't even have been three.

Billi:

I had Madeline in the grocery store when she was younger.

Billi:

She's 10 now.

Billi:

And.

Billi:

I have very good friends that I went to university with in Southern California.

Billi:

So we go visit her, probably every few years or whatever.

Billi:

And one of my favorite places to go when I go visit her is Venice Beach, California.

Billi:

Because you go there and it's this such a cool place where you walk down the, the

Billi:

boardwalk along the water and there's like an outdoor gym and you see a bunch of guys

Billi:

sitting there working out, and then you see a group of people rapping, and then

Billi:

you see a group of people rollerskating.

Billi:

And then you see, just every different kind of person, every different kind of

Billi:

music, every different kind of thing.

Billi:

And so I was in the grocery store with Madeline one day and there was a woman

Billi:

of African descent in the cooler aisle and she was, and for some reason, when

Billi:

kids are young, just people will catch their eye and they'll just stare,

Billi:

and I noticed I had Madeline in the front of my card and I noticed it.

Billi:

Her noticed her at that moment, just staring at that woman.

Billi:

And I thought to myself, I wonder what you're thinking right now.

Billi:

I don't know what she's thinking, but I was curious.

Billi:

And anyway, and I just thought to myself, I was like, I bet you that was the first,

Billi:

non-white person that my daughter had seen in quite frankly, a very long time.

Billi:

And I was like, and that was, another one of those moments that really

Billi:

stuck with me where I was like, Okay, I really need to watch that, right?

Billi:

And make sure.

Billi:

So I literally, I came home and I phoned one of my best friends, Lan.

Billi:

I said, We're coming down to California and we need to

Billi:

take my kid to Venice Beach.

Billi:

Because I needed to make sure she saw.

Billi:

So that would be, one kind of a worry.

Billi:

But I think that there are ways to work around that, right?

Billi:

I make sure traveling is a huge thing on my list of priorities for our family.

Billi:

I want my kids to experience other cultures and ways of life

Billi:

and all of that kind of thing.

Billi:

But I think the benefits outweigh the negative.

Billi:

Any negative, aspects of living rurally for sure.

Billi:

. Caite: Yeah.

Billi:

I know I've told my husband that it's really important to me that we

Billi:

travel to more cities as the kids get older, because A, they never

Billi:

learn to drive on interstates.

Billi:

Our nearest interstate is hour and a half away.

Billi:

Like they need that practice.

Billi:

It's not safe for them to not be able to drive on the interstate.

Billi:

And also just things like reading a bus schedule, these things that living.

Billi:

In rural Iowa, they're not gonna learn how to read a subway map, but they need

Billi:

to because that's part of how you be safe if you ever exist in places in the world.

Billi:

And that we

Arlene:

Sometimes joke about bringing our country mice to the city.

Arlene:

Like you go to a shopping mall and they see an escalator, . This

Arlene:

is the highlight of the trip.

Arlene:

We're only about an hour from Ottawa, so there's, lots of museums and stuff.

Arlene:

But yeah, you go to the museum and they spend half the tape

Arlene:

going up and down the escalator.

Arlene:

It's like, how are some of the

Billi:

displays, ? It's totally true.

Billi:

I've got, there's an escalator and an elevator.

Billi:

Woo.

Billi:

I know . It's absolutely true.

Billi:

There's, going back to my farm kids book, there's another aspect of

Billi:

those interviews or of kids that is so endearing and it's yeah, the farm

Billi:

is their whole world and they would.

Billi:

Have it no other way.

Billi:

One of the little boys from Nova Scotia, Charlie and Benny, the brothers

Billi:

that I had interviewed, one of them, I can't remember which one, but one

Billi:

of them had made the comment cuz I'd asked them, What do you think it would

Billi:

be like if you lived in the city?

Billi:

Or what do you think?

Billi:

Just getting that perspective from them.

Billi:

And I forget exactly how he put it, but it was something along the

Billi:

lines of, Oh no, it would be awful.

Billi:

There aren't nearly enough farms in this city, . Exactly.

Billi:

There aren't enough farms there,

Arlene:

that's the main problem really.

Arlene:

Oh, it was adorable.

Arlene:

So as a photographer, do you have any tips for parents who are trying to capture

Arlene:

those memories with, while their kids are little, or to document life on a

Arlene:

farm, on the farm and really savor those

Billi:

moments and capture them?

Billi:

For me, honestly, it's.

Billi:

Take that damn picture kind of thing.

Billi:

Something.

Billi:

And I know you can't always have iPhones take amazing photos nowadays.

Billi:

They really do.

Billi:

I have a 40 inch by 60 inch canvas in my living room of my daughters

Billi:

when they were super young and Dean was just out through the trees of our

Billi:

yard seeding his last field that year.

Billi:

You know what?

Billi:

Seeding time or planting dad's gone for a long time.

Billi:

Kids miss them dreadfully, right?

Billi:

They were young.

Billi:

My daughter, one daughter was in these bright red Rubber boots and my other

Billi:

daughter was in a sundress and they were just standing there and it was a photo.

Billi:

I had the, mindset to take at the very last minute, I conveniently

Billi:

had my phone in my hand.

Billi:

I went down and I snapped this picture of Madeline running to her

Billi:

dad and Katie standing there in a sundress and Dean in the Cedar in the

Billi:

background and he's crouched behind the cedar unplugging something.

Billi:

And I got it.

Billi:

It was from an iPhone and I got it blown up to 40 by 60 inches.

Billi:

And I tell you, it's absolutely beautiful, and it's just that Dean told me something.

Billi:

I remember when I first got here too.

Billi:

He said, We have no photos of the farm, hardly.

Billi:

Until you came around, and it's just, and like his mother often

Billi:

said, she goes, I was just too busy.

Billi:

You're running with the kids, you're exhausted, You're trying

Billi:

to keep up to everything.

Billi:

And her especially, she had four boys and was a very traditional

Billi:

farm wife, still is, And so she really didn't have the time, right?

Billi:

So if my advice is just, don't worry about the aperture and the setting

Billi:

and just take the picture, because even my kids now, they love do they

Billi:

bug me for taking too many pictures?

Billi:

Absolutely.

Billi:

But do they love looking back at these albums and seeing their life,

Billi:

growing up stage by stage or funny little videos I took or, daddy's old

Billi:

tractor or different things like that.

Billi:

Just take the picture, And it doesn't have to be perfect.

Billi:

And then you know, more than taking them and.

Billi:

Letting them get lost on your electronic drive for years and years.

Billi:

Sit back some evening and look at the pictures too, because I

Billi:

think it's something I love doing.

Billi:

Like whether I'm looking for pictures for my books or looking for pictures for my

Billi:

website or whatever, there's something about sitting in front of your laptop

Billi:

in the evening with a glass of wine and just appreciating this life that we live.

Billi:

And for me it's photos.

Billi:

Like I said, I see my life in photos, I see life in photos.

Billi:

Sitting there and looking at those pictures will really, I think,

Billi:

help you appreciate this amazing life that we do get to live.

Caite:

I know my daughter is really obsessed right now with going through

Caite:

my phone at bedtime and looking for baby pictures of her and her brother.

Caite:

Oh.

Caite:

She'll say things about, Oh, I was so little then, and I'm

Caite:

like, Honey, that was last year.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

Oh, okay.

Caite:

Though.

Caite:

And with digital photos especially, you can just delete them.

Caite:

Like you can take 50 shots and get one or two good ones and delete the rest of them.

Caite:

It's not, it's not costing you anything.

Caite:

You're not wasting film or having to wait a week to look at it

Billi:

and Yeah.

Billi:

We

Arlene:

are so lucky compared to previous generations, where a photo was a, you were

Billi:

making a commitment to

Arlene:

Plus you had to actually get the camera out, that's right.

Arlene:

Where now we don't really need to worry about those things, but yeah, it is the,

Arlene:

They also making sure they're accessible and that people can actually see them

Arlene:

and that we don't just That's right.

Arlene:

Take them and forget about them completely.

Arlene:

For sure.

Billi:

Yeah.

Caite:

All right, so we ask all of our guests, if you were going

Caite:

to dominate a category at a county fair and it can be real or made

Caite:

up, what category would it be?

Billi:

That's hilarious.

Billi:

At a county fair?

Billi:

My pickles.

Billi:

My pickles.

Billi:

What kind I am told my dit pickles.

Billi:

Okay.

Billi:

I am told by my family.

Billi:

And that counts that I have the best pickles on the planet.

Billi:

So I had never made pickles before I came here.

Billi:

So again, I mentioned like my life was a little less traditional, right?

Billi:

And so we didn't have big family recipe traditions or anything like that, quite

Billi:

frankly, or too many of them anyway.

Billi:

But pickles, when I came here, I've always loved pickles.

Billi:

And actually that's a lie.

Billi:

One thing I will say so a big part of my life, I was raised by a Polish stepfather

Billi:

who to this day is an incredibly pivotal part of me and my sister's life.

Billi:

So he met my mother, he met us when I was probably about four,

Billi:

actually three and a half, four.

Billi:

And he's, like I said, he is still in my life.

Billi:

He and my mother are no longer married.

Billi:

He raised me and my sister.

Billi:

So we're all very close.

Billi:

He was a Polish immigrant.

Billi:

He came here in 1975.

Billi:

Cuz we always say we've been in Canada the same amount of time, same year I was born.

Billi:

And he is, the Eastern European, like when it comes to food, when it comes.

Billi:

So he always loved pickles.

Billi:

So pickles was always a big thing in our life.

Billi:

So I've loved them ever since I was a child.

Billi:

So anyway, when I came here, I started learning some different

Billi:

things from my mother-in-law and stuff like that in the kitchen.

Billi:

And she wanted help with making pies or making pickles or whatever.

Billi:

So I go over there and help her and I said, Okay, I gotta watch

Billi:

you making pickles cuz I need to start making some right.

Billi:

I'd like to try them myself.

Billi:

So anyway, my mother-in-law always makes them with a lot of

Billi:

the bigger ones as well, right?

Billi:

But me and my hub, whenever we'd bring a to our home, he goes, if we

Billi:

could just have 'em all when they're really nice and small and nice

Billi:

and crisp, that would be the best.

Billi:

That would be the best.

Billi:

So over the years I've just amended the recipe to the exact number of

Billi:

garlic and all of these kinds of things and I really do think I am.

Billi:

I make the best pickles and it's also gotten to the point where a lot of our

Billi:

city friends have come to know that they really like my pickles and so

Billi:

they come here and they beg for a jar.

Billi:

I've got two little elementary school friends of my daughters

Billi:

that love my pickles so much.

Billi:

We give 'em to them for their birthday.

Billi:

So I think I would dominate the pickle category that, That

Arlene:

sounds like pretty good reviews.

Arlene:

I would say that are, Ribbon is definitely forthcoming

Billi:

in our six year old kids.

Billi:

Come on.

Billi:

They know everything.

Billi:

Yeah, for sure.

Caite:

is, oh, is this recipe secret or is it something that we could share?

Caite:

It's fine if it's secret.

Billi:

That's fine.

Billi:

I'm gonna have to think on that.

Billi:

I'll think on that.

Billi:

Yeah, it's okay.

Billi:

You're

Arlene:

allowed to keep

Billi:

it.

Billi:

You're gonna win.

Billi:

Yeah, that's great.

Billi:

don't wanna

Arlene:

let these things out.

Arlene:

Yeah.

Arlene:

So we're gonna move into the cussing and discussing segment of the show.

Arlene:

We've registered for an online platform called SpeakPipe, where you can leave

Arlene:

your cussing and discussing entries for us and we can play them on the show.

Arlene:

So go to www.speakpipe.com/barnyard language and leave us a voice memo.

Arlene:

Or you can always send us an email@barnyardlanguagegmail.com

Arlene:

and we could read it out for you.

Arlene:

So Katie, what are you going to discuss and discuss this week?

Caite:

I just wanna know why little kids are so fucking weird.

Caite:

Arlene.

Caite:

That's it.

Caite:

I was getting ready for bed last night because, of course both kids are

Caite:

still sleeping in our bed, especially when daddy's out in the tractor.

Caite:

And I was, changing into my jammies and a girl child looks over at me and she goes,

Caite:

Mommy, you look like an ice cream cone.

Caite:

And then she finally bed and fell asleep.

Caite:

I just, what am I supposed to do with that?

Caite:

Like , where do they come up with this shit?

Caite:

I dunno.

Caite:

I don't know.

Caite:

So that's what I have this week.

Caite:

Got it.

Caite:

Billy, what do you have to cuss and discuss?

Caite:

Discuss?

Caite:

Okay.

Caite:

Why

Billi:

the hell do farm husbands hate chicken so much?

Billi:

So let me explain.

Billi:

So my husband would eat beef, like there have been days where he will

Billi:

come home and make a minute steak for lunch for himself when I've already

Billi:

got like rib supper that night.

Billi:

I love steak two, I love rib roasts, all of that.

Billi:

But we can't support the industry and all that stuff, right?

Billi:

Yes.

Billi:

We cannot have it five times a week.

Billi:

So I buy these chicken breasts, from co-op, and I buy them

Billi:

pre-marinated and just.

Billi:

I cook 'em so delightfully that they're so moist and so delicious.

Billi:

We gotta support the other farmers too, in my opinion.

Billi:

Yes, for sure.

Billi:

No matter how well I cook it and how beautiful of a salad I put on the

Billi:

side of it at night or whatever, the kids have come to grading my meal.

Billi:

They think this is hilarious.

Billi:

They bring home homework and they got a P for proficient or they got A for

Billi:

adequate or they got a E for excellent.

Billi:

This is what they give me for my meals now.

Billi:

Little buggers, right?

Billi:

I'm like their personal chef and they grade me on my meal.

Billi:

But anyway, I let 'em do it.

Billi:

It's hilarious.

Billi:

No matter how good the chicken is, it's only an A for adequate.

Billi:

And I was like, Dean, you complain so much that you just want beef all the time.

Billi:

That now the girls think they, they're sure they hate chicken even though

Billi:

there's nothing wrong with the chicken.

Billi:

The is bloody delicious.

Billi:

But they, yeah.

Billi:

So it's like why do farmers.

Billi:

Have such an aversion to anything other than beef.

Billi:

I don't know what it is.

Billi:

I don't know what it is.

Billi:

Yeah, so

Caite:

Billy, here's one for you too.

Caite:

In our house, if something is good, we'll say, Oh no, it's terrible.

Caite:

It's disgusting.

Caite:

I will take it and get rid of it so that nobody else has to eat it.

Caite:

I accidentally did this to a coworker last week with a amazing meal that he

Caite:

cooked for me and he said, How is it?

Caite:

And I said, Oh God, it's horrible.

Caite:

I'll get rid of it for you . And the look on his face.

Caite:

And then, so of course I'm telling him about this.

Caite:

And then I was reminded of the time that my husband said this to me in

Caite:

front of guests that we had over for dinner, who also did not know, dude,

Caite:

don't know your reverse language.

Caite:

When he said something about he was just going on about how horrible the meal was

Caite:

and they were just staring I really didn't think she'd put up with this but over,

Caite:

and I'm like, And why did you No trust it?

Caite:

No trust in front of company when he actually doesn't like the meal,

Caite:

he won't say anything, which doesn't really make any sense cuz then

Caite:

I'm like, we must have liked it.

Caite:

He didn't say anything, and then like years later he'll be

Caite:

like, I don't really like that.

Caite:

I like, But yeah, if you go on about how horrible it is, it's

Caite:

because you like it got it.

Caite:

It's hard to remember not to bring those things out in public though.

Caite:

So Arlene, what do you have to cuss and discuss this week?

Caite:

So mine

Arlene:

this week is, I guess I'm cussing myself.

Arlene:

So the small town that we live near a couple years ago they

Arlene:

did a big construction project on part of the main street.

Arlene:

So it was like everything from way underground, like they were replacing

Arlene:

water mains and natural gas pipe lines and all that kind of stuff.

Arlene:

So that section was done and now they're doing the other part of the main street.

Arlene:

So this is the town I have to drive through when I go anywhere really,

Arlene:

other than to, if I were to pick the kids up from school, it's in

Arlene:

the opposite direction, but for the most part, if I'm going somewhere,

Arlene:

I'm going through this town and.

Arlene:

I keep forgetting that there's a major

Billi:

detour until I get down

Arlene:

there and then I'm like, Yeah, the main street's still closed and it's gonna

Arlene:

be closed for months and it has already been closed for a month at this point.

Arlene:

And I could go, There's many alternate routes, but I have to

Arlene:

like physically see the no entry sign and then I'm like, Oh yeah.

Arlene:

Yeah, I can't take this street because it's

Billi:

still closed.

Billi:

Oh.

Arlene:

So that's just cussing myself for not remembering that

Arlene:

there's gonna be construction.

Arlene:

Probably about the time that I remember that the construction

Arlene:

is, there will be like in October when they're finally done and

Billi:

when they're finished that It's all fixed.

Billi:

Yeah.

Billi:

Oh.

Arlene:

So thank you so much, Billy, for joining us on the podcast today.

Arlene:

Remind people where they can find more out about you, about your books.

Arlene:

Where should they look you

Billi:

up online?

Billi:

Yes.

Billi:

I appreciate it so much.

Billi:

My name is Billy, b i l i.

Billi:

J Miller and it's that same website, billy j miller.com.

Billi:

But I highly encourage Pop on there.

Billi:

You can click shop and you can order the books directly from my

Billi:

home supply and that will get you signed copies if you wanna give

Billi:

'em for a gift or anything else.

Billi:

Or you could find any of my books on Amazon on chapters online as well.

Billi:

Chapters Indigo.

Billi:

Or you could honestly just go into your local bookstore if you wanna shop

Billi:

local, which I highly encourage as well.

Billi:

They can order them in too.

Billi:

So just ask 'em to search out my name and but definitely visit my

Billi:

website billy j miller.com and you'll find all about me there.

Billi:

Perfect.

Billi:

Thank

Arlene:

you so much.

Arlene:

It was great to meet you.

Billi:

Aw, thank you.

Caite:

I should get back to the script.

Caite:

Thank you everyone for joining us today on Barnyard Language, A proud member of the

Caite:

Positively Farming Media Podcast Network.

Caite:

That's a mouthful, Arlene.

Caite:

Wow.

Caite:

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Caite:

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Caite:

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Caite:

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Caite:

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Arlene:

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Arlene:

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Caite:

Arlene, I have a an extra family photography tip.

Caite:

Clean your windows.

Caite:

I always try to take pictures out the window and they end up

Caite:

with all these horrible spots.

Caite:

I cleaned my office windows this week for the first time in the

Caite:

eight years I've lived here and God knows how long before that.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

And took, and now you can take clear pictures.

Caite:

It took an entire roll of paper towels to wash three windows.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

Yeah.

Caite:

But now I can see out, so that's nice.

Caite:

I had no idea about that.

Caite:

So there's my extra tip.

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